Shelves: adoption-parenting , non-fiction , family-relationship , psychology , owned-books This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. He argues that premature information without practical application can be dangerous and leads to "artificial maturity". Another way to say this is that kids today possess knowledge without context. A wealth of information creates a poverty of attention.
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Shelves: adoption-parenting , non-fiction , family-relationship , psychology , owned-books This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. He argues that premature information without practical application can be dangerous and leads to "artificial maturity". Another way to say this is that kids today possess knowledge without context.
A wealth of information creates a poverty of attention. In order to foster authentic maturity, Elmore offers four different approaches. Provide autonomy and responsibilities simultaneously. Provide information and accountability simultaneously. Provide experiences to accompany their text-savvy lifestyles. Provide community service opportunities to balance their self service time. One problem he addresses is the dangers of bursts of information technology constantly provides us.
We have a primitive impulse to respond to immediate opportunities or threats, which for kids today means texts, tweets, and Facebook updates.
With each possible piece of new information we receive a dopamine squirt, and this can become addictive. Without this constant stimulation, students can feel bored and devoid of direction. This creates a dependency on outside stimulation. Another issue he addresses is the development of counterfeit or virtual ways to appease desires for excitement, novelty, risk, and connection. For excitement, teens may seek to get a tattoo or nose ring or ride roller coasters in order to meet this need.
For novelty, instead of discovering their unique strengths and contributions at work, they may satisfy this desire by wearing bizarre clothing or coloring their hair. For risk, they avoid meaningful risk that can prepare them for adulthood, and instead satisfy this desire by playing video games, watching reality TV, or celebrity gossip.
For connection, instead of moving out into face-to-face relationships in which they make get rejected, they satisfy this need online through social media. He offers these ideas to transform artificial maturity into authentic maturity: Developing emotional intelligence, focusing on character and a sense of ethics, helping kids discover their strengths, and developing a sense of leadership so they understand that they are part of something larger than themselves.
Another issue with artificial maturity has to do with how children handle their talents. Often parents focus so much on giving them all the opportunities to develop their talent, that they fail to give them training in developing emotional maturity to go with those talents. Here is another list of suggestions for encouraging maturity in young adults: 1. Face-to-face relationships 2. Genuine as opposed to virtual projects and experiences 3.
Multi-generational exposure 4. Saving money toward a goal 5. Service opportunities 6. Cross-cultural travel 7. Mammoth real-life challenges and opportunities 8. Participation on a team 9. Age-appropriate mentors A rite of passage experience. Four ideas to better engage students: 1. Problem-based learning. Student-driven learning 3. Experiential learning. The experience 2. Reflection on the experience 3. Abstract conceptualization generalize to other situations, etc.
Personal foundations - personality, character foundation, teachable spirit, emotional security yrs 2. Style and Identity Development - socialization by peers - personal disciplines and habits, awareness and discernment, solid sense of identity, healthy relationships, intentional attitude 4.
Practice and Fitness - putting identity into practice - submission to authority, vision and ambition, emotional intelligence, strength and skill discovery, people skills, influence 5. Value and Production - midlife years - life purpose, sacrifice, priorities and focus, motive purification, productivity, widened influence, leadership reproduction 6.
Convergence and Fulfillment - momentum, effectiveness, wisdom and objectivity, world vision, equipping ability, generosity 7. Afterglow and Finale - deep fulfillment and reward, wide range of influence, rest and poise, authority in their lives, multiplication of leadership Throughout the book he offers examples from parents about ways to teach their children responsibility.
For example, one parent decided to match every dollar their child saved for college and they also gave their children an allowance that was equal to their age each month. The exercise forces them to look at themselves from an outside perspective and helps reveal to them what they value about themselves and what they have to offer a potential employer. One parent says they have their children who are in high school watch them pay their bills each month.
They involve them with budget planning, cooking, and other basic life skills. Another parent says whenever their kids needed punishment for breaking the rules, they would make them read the newspaper. After reading a newspaper, they would ask questions about articles in the paper; they never knew which article the question would be from so they had to read the whole paper.
Another example has a mother who required her two sons to take her on a date before they are allowed to go out on a one-on-one date with a girl they like. They have to make it a real date and follow through with all the ways that they plan on treating a girl.
I thoroughly enjoyed the book and felt like it gave a lot of useful information. It was also a book that helped me to reframe how I respond to situations that seem to be so urgent, at the moment. Looking further down the road and being able to envision what you want for and would like to teach your children as they become contributors to this world, makes the decisions much easier and the choices much clearer.
Enjoyed the ideas at the end of each chapter, from the field, on ways to help your child become authentically mature.
Artificial Maturity: Helping Kids Meet the Challenge of Becoming Authentic Adults [HARDCOVER]
Created with Sketch. Believe it or not, Justin Bieber is merely a picture of so many others his age. For that matter, so is Miley Cyrus, and the list goes on and on. At 13, they were viewed by classmates with envy and admiration. Ten years later, the early signs of maturation and the advanced "cool factor" backfires. You knew them as your classmates, and they were so not you. By young adulthood, they implode.
Artificial Maturity: Helping Kids Meet the Challenge of Becoming Authentic Adults